Have you ever wondered why relationships have started to fail all of a sudden and it has become really difficult to maintain a healthy relationship? Modern relationships aren’t failing because of lack of love—they’re failing because we’ve forgotten what love truly is. We have discussed some of the most common and important factors of why do modern-day relationships fail. If you can deal with all these issues, we promise you that your relationship will definitely improve. Here are the top reasons why modern-day relationships fail:
- Communication issues: We all know how to speak but only a few of us know how to communicate effectively. And this lack of proper communication is one of the primary reasons why do modern-day relationships fail. We do not communicate our needs, expectations etc. We think that our partner should understand by themselves. Can you please tell me how they can understand if you don’t communicate with them?
- Unrealistic expectations: We cannot eliminate expectations from a relationship, but at least we can have realistic expectations. Now a days, celebrities and so-called influencers portray relationships in such a perfect way that when our relationship goes a bit off track, we feel that relationship has fallen apart. We need to realize that there is no such thing as perfect relationship. Every couple fight, every relationship goes off track every now and then. No one is showing the dark side of their relationships.
- Comparison: Comparing our relationships with someone else’s relationships is one of the primary reasons why do modern-day relationships fail. Please understand that if every human being is different, then every relationship will also be different. Every relationship has sunny days as well as snowy days. We should never compare our snowy days with someone’s sunny days. Never ever compare your partner and relationship to someone else.
- Outside Noise: The issue is that we listen to outside noise way too much and let it ruin our beautiful relationship. We need to understand that everyone is going to have a different opinion about us, our relationship, but it doesn’t matter much to be honest. What matters is what you and your partner feel about your relationship. Yes, sometimes we fail to see things from different perspectives, and you need someone who can help you see things differently, but it is best if things remain between you and your partner. The need for a third person/party in a relationship shows a lack of understanding in it.
- Lack of Emotional Control: This is perhaps the most important reason why modern-day relationships fail. We humans are emotional creatures. Every human experience all emotions, it is how we react to them which makes the difference. How you handle the emotions of jealousy, anger, frustration, excitement, and inferiority makes a whole lot of difference to our relationships. Eight minutes of anger can ruin 8 years of relationship. Never take relationship decisions based on what/how you are feeling now.
- Emotional Baggage: Please, it is my humble request, that if you have a dreadful past/relationship, please heal yourself first. Please make healing your top priority if you don’t want to experience your past in your future. Carrying your emotional baggage/unhealed version in your relationships will always make you feel insecure. Healing is your responsibility not your partner’s. People keep changing partners without healing and end up hurting themselves and their partners, transferring their trauma. Healing is tough, that’s why most people never heal. But trust me, healing is worth all the efforts.
- Lack of Quality time: First, let me make clear that there is no universal definition of “Quality Time”. It is different for all couples. For some, it may be a movie, while for some it is reading books and sharing their knowledge later. Make sure that when you are with your partner, you are present there. Spending quality time is important because it makes you feel connected to your partner.
- Disconnected Personal Journeys: Another really important factor influencing why do modern-day relationships fail. We do not become part of each other’s growth. We start knowing each other in the beginning phase and then when we get a fair idea of each other, we stop the process of getting to know each other. We fail to realize that we are changing everyday as a person. Our experiences change us, shape us over time. When we don’t share our growth journey, we outgrow each other and start feeling disconnected. We feel the loss of spark and intimacy which becomes the reason for break ups and divorces.
- Lack of Personal Goals: The biggest mistake that we make in our relationships is that we consider it the biggest part of our lives, like we link our everything with the relationship. The issue with this mindset is that what if the relationship is not there anymore? We are left with a huge void if the relationship fails which leads to depression. We think relationships mean going towards each other, but it should be like we go towards our goals while holding hands of our partner. We become partners/support system of each other in our journey.
- Take/Receive Mentality: We only think about what we are getting from a relationship and don’t think much about what we are giving. Relationships should be focused on what we are giving. If both partners focus on giving, then both partners will receive, and it will be a happy harmonious relationship.
There are many factors which contribute to the failure of modern-day relationships, but we have tried our best to discuss the top reasons why modern-day relationships fail. We really hope that you like our blog. Please follow us on Instagram if you want us to be a small part of our journey
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Wishing you all the best for your relationship. With the hope of finding and being a good partner, bye to all.
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