Green Flags in a Partner

Are you wondering whether your partner is a green flag or not? Or, if you are single, are you confused about the green flags in a partner. Well, if that’s the case, then you are certainly at the right place. So, without wasting any time, let us dive deep into the list of green flags in a person.

Note: I want you to know and accept that every person has red flags, there is nothing called green forest, sorry to break your illusion. So if someone has some red flags, “some” is the key word here, but has many green flags, it is a good deal.

10 Positive Signs of a Supportive and Loving Partner

1. Good Human Being: Everything else comes after this, the one of the first green flags in a partner should be: they must be a good human being. By good human beings, we mean they must possess basic human qualities like compassion, empathy, honesty etc. One important thing here is they should be good human beings for everyone, not only for you. If they are kind and generous towards you but not towards others, my friend, you are going to get the same treatment very soon. 

2. Best Friend: Your partner should be your best friend. You should feel like you can be yourself in front of this person. You don’t have to pretend something, can share your darkest secrets, bad habits, and still feel fully accepted. This is called mental intimacy, it’s like you are mentally naked in front of your partner. After all, you will be spending your whole life with them, how long can you wear a mask? Ask yourself, “can I be myself with this person” before you get into a relationship with them. 

3. Emotionally Mature: One of the most important green flags in a partner. They must be able to handle their emotions effectively. Someone who can’t handle their emotions can’t handle their relationships, end of debate. Yes, burnout and emotional outburst will happen, but its frequency should be low. 

4. Personal Space: If they give you enough space in your life, and do not try to get too much in, that is a positive sign for you. A good partner will respect your personal time and space, won’t try to spend 24 hours with you, won’t keep you under their surveillance, don’t question/mind if you need some time in solitude.

5. Boundaries: One of the most important green flags in a partner is they have boundaries, and they respect your boundaries too. Without boundaries, one partner may feel overburdened or taken advantage of. A good partner will never try to cross your boundaries. 

6. Efforts with consistency: A good partner will put efforts, with consistency. I want you to be patient, anyone can put efforts, but it is the consistency that matters. Yes, there will be days when the graph will go down, no one is 100% consistent but consistency is a must. Also, you should not test someone’s consistency too much, a balance is necessary.

7. Time: A good partner will always give you enough time. You will never feel ignored. They are always there for you, especially at times when you need support. They never abandon you, no matter what the situation is. Remember, no one is too busy, if they want to make time, they will. And time is not even the bare minimum.

8. Communication: Being good at communication is one of the important green flags in a partner. They communicate what they need from you, what they expect you to do, what hurts them, what makes them happy and everything. They never give you a chance to overthink. They apologize when they need to. A good partner must be a great listener. Good communication can eliminate unnecessary fights in a relationship.

9. No Past Trauma, only lessons: Almost everyone has some past trauma, whether it’s from a past relationship, toxic family environment or from anywhere else. It is their responsibility to deal with that, not yours. If they have dealt with their past, not carrying it as a burden but as a lesson, then this is one of the big green flags in a partner. This is a sign that they are a responsible and accountable individual.

10. Discussion, not Arguments: Whenever you discuss something uncomfortable or new or something that your partner doesn’t agree with, that conversation should turn into a discussion, not an argument. A good partner is open to different perspectives. The purpose of an argument is to win while the purpose of a discussion is to arrive at a conclusion both parties subscribe to. 

A Sign of a Healthy Partner: Low Ego, Not High Demands

This is something very rare and it should not be the reason you reject someone. Eliminating expectations from someone/relationship isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. We also have a list of expectations from our partner/future partner, come on don’t lie. It is very humane to have expectations from someone whom we give our time and energy to. But if they have really low expectations, so called bare minimum expectations, they are a rare breed, keep them.

That’s it, I know the list is very short, but it is short for a purpose. I know you want to add a lot to this list, but to be honest, this is an unending list. I don’t want to give you a checklist you take out every time someone approaches you. Remember, you should have these green flags within you before you look for them in other people. But yes, you have all the rights to make your list as long as you can, but keep in mind that you need to make that list first, only then is it fair to expect it from someone else. 

The green flags we have discussed in this article serve as a baseline on which you can lay down the foundation of your relationship. If someone has these 10 green flags in a partner, there are very good chances that they will be a good partner.

A warm goodbye to a green flag from a green flag. See you soon!

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