9 Signs of a Healthy Relationship You Should Know

Almost everyone these days is in a relationship but a very few of them are in a healthy relationship. We hear about many signs of a healthy relationship or indications on Social media from different minds. But the question is: Are we realistic with those signs? Aren’t we chasing perfection in the name of a healthy relationship?

There are many signs of a healthy relationship and unfortunately, there is no single relationship in the world that have all these qualities. A relationship is a healthy one until both the partners are working on it and trying to make it healthy. “The biggest sign of a healthy relationship is where two partners work continuously on it to make it better”

Let’s take a look at the 9 signs of a healthy relationship that show you’re truly in a positive and supportive bond

1. No Comparison

A healthy relationship is free from any kind of comparison. You never compare your relationship with anyone else’s, not even during your low times. You understand that every relationship has its own challenges and every couple deals with them differently. You always focus on your relationship, where it lacks and how to improve it. You understand that no relationship in like yours.

2. Clear Communication / No Emotional Drama

Clear communication is the basis of a strong healthy and long relationship. You both communicate clearly with each other. There is no indirect communication, no hints given. You can communicate what you want or need without any hesitation. Indirect or unclear communication can leave the other person in distress and destroy their peace. Clear communication makes complex things simpler.  A healthy relationship is free from any kind of drama. You share your feelings openly, freely and directly and your partner understands you without getting offended. There is no drama against any topic. Your partner doesn’t expect you to understand them without them saying it. You communicate your issues and feelings without expecting any drama. Your emotions are understood without getting offended or defensive. You both handle every situation with maturity.

3. Trust and Understanding

You both trust understand each other very well. Every relationship in the world is built on the foundation of trust. No relationship can exist if trust is not there. You trust each other with everything and there is no fear of it being broken. You try to understand each other by being in their shoes, you understand their perspectives and thoughts. You both never have a thought like this might upset my partner, you just know that they will understand. This makes transparency and honesty easy.

4. Honesty and Transparency

We all talk about honesty and how important it is in a relationship, but we often overlook transparency. Honesty means that your partner never lies to you, but transparency goes beyond this. It means that your partner shares everything about themselves without you even asking about it. It is obvious that you cannot be with your partner 24/7. Updating your partner is one of your key responsibilities in a relationship. It eliminates overthinking, promotes transparency and helps build trust.

5. Love Language and Fight Language

You both know each other’s love language and fight language. Love language is the behaviour which makes the other person feel loved. You love your partner in their love language, and they do the same. Understanding each other’s love language is important because if we don’t love our partner in their love language, they might not feel much loved. Tip: If you don’t know a person’s love language, it is best to reciprocate their actions and behaviours as we all express love in the way we want to experience it.

Every relationship faces conflicts every now and then. But in a healthy relationship, every conflict makes your bond stronger and brings you closer rather than apart. You both know and understand each other’s (conflict resolution styles). You understand how to handle each other during conflicts. Learn more about conflict resolution skills (here).

6. You encourage each other to grow while being yourself

The sign of healthy relationship is a one where you can be your true authentic self. You don’t hide any part of yourself from your partner as you feel fully accepted by them. It is your partner’s love that they accept you as you are but it is your responsibility to keep working on yourself and make yourself better every day. While it is important to spend time with each other in a relationship, it is equally important to spend time on yourself to grow. A healthy relationship is where both partners learn and grow with each other.

7. Forgiveness

A healthy and a long-term relationship involves a lot of forgiveness. We are all humans, we make mistakes but if we keep holding onto the mistakes, a relationship will shortly fall apart. You need to understand and accept that your partner will hurt you, but not intentionally though, and you must forgive them provided they accept their mistake and work on it. Note that if your partner forgives you, you should not repeat the mistakes. Please note that mistakes need forgiveness, but pattern needs improvement.  A healthy relationship requires a lot of forgiveness. We must accept the fact that our partner will hurt us (unintentionally) every now and then we need to forgive them every time if we want a long healthy relationship. Issues are discussed and dealt with as they come and no grudges are hold against each other. How easy you both understand and forgive each other determines how long and healthy your relationship will be.

8. Consideration

Consideration means while taking any decision or doing anything, you think about your partner, you consider how your decision or action is going to impact your partner. Sometimes we are too focussed on ourselves that we tend to forget that our every decision affects our partner as well.

9. Independence and Personal Life

A healthy relationship doesn’t take away your independence instead gives you freedom. If there is anything that humans love the most, then it is their independence. A relationship that takes away your freedom or independence can’t be a healthy relationship.

You both understand that there should exist a world outside of your relationship. You get some time to spend with your friends and family as they are also important for you, and this doesn’t offend your partner. We all need some me time where we want to spend some time alone just to rejuvenate and a healthy relationship allows you to do so.

The sign of healthy bond that respects your need for family, friends, and “me time

1. Respect and love for Family

When you get into a relationship, you just don’t get into a relationship with your partner, you get into a relationship with their family as well. It doesn’t matter how much you love your partner, you can’t replace their family. Healthy relationship is where you both treat each other’s family as your own family.

2.Free from Past Trauma

A healthy relationship is free from past trauma. It is your responsibility to heal yourself from any past trauma, if it exists, before you enter a relationship. A healthy relationship involves two healthy people. By healthy we don’t mean physically healthy but mentally and emotionally healthy as well.

3. Comfort Zone and Happy Place

A healthy relationship is your comfort zone and happy place. Yes, there are ups and downs in every relationship, but it should not add stress to your life. It should be your go to place when everything seems to be falling apart. You are so much comfortable with your partner that you can talk about anything and anytime without any hesitation. Like there is no hesitation regarding anything. You feel like they are a family member.

There is family like comfort in a healthy relationship.

1. Good at making decisions together

When it comes to making decisions together, you both don’t argue rather collaborate to make good decisions. Note that none of you feel compromised, you feel like a team. You both feel heard and involved in the decision making process,feeling fully satisfied at the end decision.

2. You are not afraid of difficult conversations

Top sign of a healthy relationship is you are not afraid of difficult conversations. If you feel you don’t agree with your partner, you don’t hold your point of view back, you express it without having a thought that this might upset your partner. You are not afraid of talking with your partner on any topic. There is never an argument on anything only discussions happen. If a couple avoids difficult conversations, their relationship will shortly fall apart. The best thing about it is if every topic/issue is discussed as it comes, none of the partners hold grudges in their heart and a relationship stays fresh forever.

3. Boundaries and honoured and respected

Boundaries are very important for a healthy relationship. Boundaries don’t push the other partner away but they are there to keep them. Everyone is different and they have their own likes and dislikes. If one partner doesn’t like something, the other one needs to and must respect their partner. Boundaries make a person feel respected in a relationship.

4. Commitment

A healthy relationship is where both partners are committed to it. Commitment is tested during tough times like when things aren’t going your way. It is tested during arguments, conflicts and when the relationship is struggling to get going. Our life is full of ups and downs and each phase affect our relationship, specially the low days.

5. Comfortable pace

We all have our own pace for everything. Some people fall too quickly while others take a lot more time to decide. A relationship should go at a pace which both partners agree on. Like for example, if one partner is not so much comfortable in physical touch too quickly, the other one shouldn’t force it. If one of the partners feel forced in any area, it won’t make them comfortable in the relationship.

Please do not expect your relationship to be a perfect one or to have all these qualities. We just need to continuously work on our relationships. No human being is perfect. It doesn’t matter how much patience we have, we will lose our patience sometime. It doesn’t matter how much someone understands you, there will be some moments of misunderstandings. It doesn’t matter how good a couple you are, your relationship will have conflicts. In a nutshell, every relationship will have low phases, what matters is how quickly you both come up as a team to deal with those difficulties.

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